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How To Blog For Choice

So I vowed to write more and blog more and the year has plenty of time left in it, so don't worry about me. The past month has been amazing, and that's why I haven't had the time to write. I'll be scheduling it soon, so a resurgence in content is imminent. I try to keep on my tech topic, but I do far too little activism on the things I believe in, and its high time I changed that. Don't worry, politics will not become a staple of this blog, but I'm likely reviving my personal blog. But, no one reads that, so how vocal can I be about something with no readers?

Today is Blog for Choice Day

Blog for Choice Day

We're supposed to be a logical bunch. We spend out careers thinking about things and being intelligent. When you think about something long enough, there are obvious realizations that everyone comes to. People that think about tracking version changes all realize you need goof version control. Any group of people trying to coordinate understand the need for issue trackers. Software is designed in chaos, but a small bit of thought leads us all to the same conclusions.

Do we reach the same ends outside our industry? Is thought universal? There are a lot of things in the world that people take for granted, and that those who think about for some time come to the same conclusions of that the non-thinkers just don't understand. There is no secret that the more educated a person is, the more likely they are to be atheist. Health conscious members of society are more likely to wander away from the steaks and mix up some soy-shakes.

Is it any different with the right for a family to decide when they grow? I can't see the logic and forcing every mistake to live through a strained budget, a broken family, or to drag down the life of an aspiring teenager. Life is a precious miracle and the biggest way we can waste it is to let it find its way in the inopportune spots of the world. We don't do the gift of consciousness any favors by making it deal with a life that didn't have room for it.

The wrong-right won't even budge to save the life of a mother that could go on to birth more, healthier children. They think its somehow more humane to bring broken babies into broken familes, and take teenagers who made mistakes out of school instead of giving them a second chance to build a life with a family the right way. They can call choice supporters baby killers, and I have a friend who does just that, but all they support is inhumanely putting babies into doomed lives.

Think about it.

I was an accident.

Comments

Anonymous said…
Ending a pregnancy by killing the fetus is not the only way to unburden a woman who is accidentally pregant. Abortion should be legal and available in cases of rape or incest, or certainly where the life of the mother is at risk, but in all other cases, the child, if legitimately unwanted should be given up for adoption. Infants are much more easily adopted than older children, and there's often a waiting list. In fact if a woman decides to give her child up for adoption before giving birth, the adopting parents health insurance often covers the bills. Thousands, if not millions of couples in the US are incapable of becoming pregnant, and many are waiting to be able to adopt. The regulations for adoption could also be loosened so that all the families who already have a few children don't have to adopt from Central America or East Asia and pay thousands of dollars in bribes to add new members to their families.

Adoption has a negative stigma because older children are much more difficult to place into permanent homes, but don't forget, as your fighting for the right to choose, that there is an alternate, less emotionally scarring, choice that doesn't end in the death of an unborn child.
Marilyn said…
Keep up the good work. Cheers:-)
Anonymous said…
The next logical step for this argument is euthanasia for the elderly, and then the mentally handicapped, and then the crippled...

This sort of scenario is repeated over and over: young family gets a child that they don't feel they wanted and are unable to give him all they want to. That doesn't mean that they shouldn't face the fact that every decision they have ever made has had some sort of consequence. Life is decisions.

Sounds like your parents have made you feel pretty bad for your birth and that you feel bad for them, and probably feel bad that you weren't provided for "properly" and probably (based on your last statement) even feel like you would rather not even be on this planet given your current situation and the fact that no one "wanted" you anyway. However, you are wanted -- people are actually reading your blog! People want you -- reach out to them. These things are really tough to cope with, but its the way things are. Pick yourself up and move on.

One this is sure: you are not to blame for your parent's mistakes or inability to take care of you properly. Just try to fix that problem with your own kids, if you ever have the opportunity to get that sort of blessing.

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